Show NotesEpisode 14: How To Say "No" And Establish Healthy Boundaries Online
Hello and welcome to today’s episode. I’m so glad that you are here today. Now today I want to talk about how to say no and establish what I call, healthy boundaries online. Now that everyone is being forced to go online. People are forced to move online, how then can you be seen taking care of your own time?
Have a healthy boundary(02:09 - 02:24) A lot of times we think that we must do certain things to be, you know, pleasing people, we want to take care of their feelings and emotions but not forgetting how we are focusing and targeting our own emotions as well.
(02:29 - 02:45) People have been contacting me to be a speaker on their platforms, to be doing joint collaborations, to do webinars, to do things together. And I realized that all of these are not aligned with my goals.
(02:51 - 03:05) You must always be looking at how are you aligning your path and direction in itself. Because if you are not aligned, you know, you’re gonna waste time going round and round in circles.
(03:06 - 03:16) So what I recommend is when someone writes to you certain things you could have been asking yourself, what is your goal for the month, for the year? Begin with an end in mind.
Align the invitation with your goals(07:45 - 08:02) So are you playing win-win together you win with that person who has invited you to speak, invited you to do things? And aligning it with your goal. Right? Aligning it with your monthly goal and yearly goal. Always begin with an end in mind.
(08:03 - 08:34) So for me in the end, of course, I said no. And the way I said no is, I told her, I said, “I’m so sorry, my plates are full.” I’m keeping it good, right? So don’t be rude when you’re talking to people online. Because people remember, it’s always the way you make them feel. Just say no, maybe time is not right at the moment. My plates are full. And then thank you very much and you know keep shining and keep your dreams burning and keeping it alive.
Don’t look down on people(08:35 - 08:54) So it’s always being cordial and knowing that you need to be professional even though you do not wish to take up the project. Don’t go and criticize people or put people down because they are just starting out and they have a dream. Just give them an opportunity and say okay thank you so much and just move on.
(08:58 - 09:12) If they ask for a recommendation, like could you refer another speaker or is there someone whom you can refer them to then just give them another name or someone else who’s more suitable for their platform and profile,
- Learn to say no without offending people
- Set a healthy boundary online
- Align any invitation with your goals
- Play win-win together you win with anyone that you deal with a business.
- Begin with an end in mind.
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